Good Etiquette

Fortress Of The Muslim

47. Congratulation On The Occasion Of A Birth & Its Reply

(1)بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ فِي الْمَوْهُوبِ لَكَ، وَ شَكَرْتَ الْوَاهِبَ، وَبَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ، وَرُزِقْتَ بِرَّهُ(2)بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ، َوجَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْراً، وَرَزَقَكَ اللَّهُ مِثْلَهُ، وأَجْزَلَ ثَوَابَك

Baarakallaahu laka fil-mawhoobi laka, wa shakartal-waahiba , wa balagha 'ashuddahu, wa ruziqta birrahu.(1)Baarakallahu laka wa baaraka 'alayka, wa jazaakallaahu khayran, wa razaqakallaahu mithlahu, wa 'ajzala thawaabaka.(2)

May Allah bless you with His gift to you, and may you (the new parent) give thanks, may the child reach the maturity of years, and may you be granted its righteousness.(1)The reply of the person being congratulated is to say: "May Allah bless you, and shower His blessings upon you, and may Allah reward you well and bestow upon you its like and reward you abundantly".(2)

Reference: An-Nawawi, Kitdbul-'Athkarp. 349, and Sahihul-'Athkar2/7l3 by Saleem Al-Hilali.

Hisn al-Muslim 145

To Top

75. When Insulted While Fasting

إِنِّي صَائِمٌ، إِنِّي صَائِمٌ

'Inneesaa'imun, 'innee saa'imun.

I am fasting. I am fasting.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, cf. Al-Asqalani, Fathul-BAri 4/103, Muslim 2/806.

Hisn al-Muslim 186

To Top

77. Upon Sneezing

(1)الْحَمْدُ للَّهِ(2)يَرْحَمُكَاللَّهُ(3)يَهْدِيكُمُ اللَّهُ وَيُصْلِحُ بَالَكُم

Alhamdu lillaah.(1)Yarhamukallaah.(2)Yahdeekumul-laahu wa yuslihu baalakum.(3)

When you sneeze, then say: "All praises and thanks are to Allah".(1)Your companion should say: "May Allah have mercy upon you".(2)Then you should replies: "May Allah guide you and set your affairs in order".(3)

Reference: Al-Bukhari 7/125.

Hisn al-Muslim 188

To Top

78. Upon Sneezing

يَهْديكُمُ اللَّهُ وَيُصْلِحُ بالَكُم

Yahdeekumullaahu wa yuslihu baalakum.

May Allah guide you and rectify your condition.

Reference: At-Tirmidhi 5/82, Ahmad 4/400, Abu Dawud 4/ 308. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At-Tirmidhi 2/354.

Hisn al-Muslim 189

To Top

80. On The Wedding Night Or When Buying An Animal

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ

Allaahumma 'innee 'as'aluka khayrahaa wa khayra majabaltahaa 'alayhi wa 'a'oothu bika min sharrihaa wa sharri maajabaltahaa 'alayhi.

When any of you marries a woman or purchases a maid-servant then let him say: "O Allah, I ask You for the goodness of her and the goodness upon which You have created her, and I seek refuge in You from the evil of her and from the evil upon which You have created her". If you purchase a camel (animal) then take hold of the top of its hump and say the same.

Reference: Abu Dawud 2/248 and Ibn Majah 1/617. See also Al-Albani, Sahih Ibn Majah 1/324.

Hisn al-Muslim 191

To Top

82. When Angry

أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجيـمِ

'A'oothu billaahi minash-Shaytaanir-rajeem.

I seek refuge in Allah from Satan the outcast.

Reference: Al-Bukhari 7/99, Muslim 4/2015.

Hisn al-Muslim 193

To Top

83. Upon Seeing Someone In Trial Or Tribulation

الْحَمْدُ للَّهِ الَّذِي عَافَانِي مِمَّا ابْتَلَاكَ بِهِ وَفَضَّلَنِي عَلَى كَثِيرٍ مِمَّنْ خَلَقَ تَفْضِيلًا

Alhamdu lillaahil-lathee 'aafaanee mimmab-talaaka bihi wa fadhdhalanee 'alaa katheerin mimman khalaqa tafdheela.

Praise is to Allah Who has spared me what He has afflicted you with, and preferred me greatly above much of what He has created.

Reference: Sahih Ibn Majah 2/321. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At-Tirmidhi 3/153.

Hisn al-Muslim 194

To Top

84. At A Sitting Or Gathering

عن ابن عمر قال :كان يعد لرسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم في المجلس الواحد مائة مرة من قبل أن يقوم رَبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَتُبْ عَلَيَّ إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الْغَفُورُ

Rabbighfir lee wa tub 'alayya 'innaka 'Antat-Tawwaabul-Ghafoor.

Ibn Umar (ra) said: Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to repeat in a single sitting: My Lord, forgive me and accept my repentance, You are the Ever-Relenting, the All-Forgiving.

Reference: At-Tirmidhi 5/493,4. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At-Tirmidhi 3/153.

Hisn al-Muslim 195

To Top

85. For The Expiation Of Sins, Said At The Conclusion Of A Sitting Or Gathering

سُبْحَانَكَ اللَّهُمَّ وَبِحَمْدِكَ، أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلهَ إِلَاَّ أَنْتَ أَسْتَغْفِرُكَ وَأَتُوبُ إِلَيْكَ

Subhaanaka Allaahumma wa bihamdika, 'ash-hadu 'an laa 'ilaaha 'illaa 'Anta, 'astaghfiruka wa 'atoobu 'ilayka.

Glory is to You, O Allah, and praise is to You. I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but You. I seek Your forgiveness and repent to You.(Allah's Messenger (SAW) did not sit in a gathering, and did not recite the Qur'an, and did not perform any prayer without concluding by saying this invocation.)

Reference: Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah, At-Tirmidhi and An-Nasa'i. See also Al-Albani, Sahih At-Tirmidhi 3/ 153. Aishah (RA) said: "Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) did not sit in a gathering, and did not recite the Qur'an, and did not perform any prayer without concluding by saying ... (then she quoted the above)." This was reported by An-Nasa'i in 'Amalul-Yawm wal-Laylah (no.308), and Dr. Farooq Hamadah graded it authentic in his checking of the same book, p. 273. See also Ahmad 6/77

Hisn al-Muslim 196

To Top

86. Returning A Supplication Of Forgiveness

وَلَكَ

Walaka

And you.

Reference: Ahmad 5/82, and An-Nasa'i in 'Amalul-Yawm wal-Laylah p. 218, with checking by Dr. Farooq Hamadah.

Hisn al-Muslim 197

To Top

87. To One Who Does You A Favour

جَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْراً

Jazaakallaahu khayran

May Allah reward you with good.

Reference: At-Tirmidhi (no. 2035). See also Al-Albani, Sahih At-Tirmidhi 2/200 and Sahihul-Jami' (no. 6244).

Hisn al-Muslim 198

To Top

89. To One Who Pronounces His Love For You, For Allah’s Sake

أَحَبَّكَ الَّذِي أَحْبَبْتَنِي لَهُ

'Ahabbakal-lathee 'ahbabtanee lahu.

May He for Whose sake you love me, love you.

Reference: Abu Dawud 4/333. Al-Albani graded it good in Sahih Abu Dawud 3/965.

Hisn al-Muslim 200

To Top

90. To One Who Has Offered You Some Of His Wealth

بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ فِي أَهْلِكَ وَمَالِكَ

Baarakallaahu laka fee 'ahlika wa maalika.

May Allah bless you in your family and your property.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, cf. Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 4/88.

Hisn al-Muslim 201

To Top

91. To The Debtor When His Debt Is Settled

بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ فِي أَهْلِكَ وَمَالِكَ، إِنَّمَا جَزَاءُ السَّلَفِ الْحَمْدُ وَالأَدَاءُ

Baarakallaahu laka fee 'ahlika wa maalika, 'innamaa jazaa'us-salafil-hamdu wal'adaa'.

May Allah bless you in your family and your wealth, surely the reward for a loan is praise and returning (what was borrowed).

Reference: An-Nasa'i, 'Amalul-Yawm wal-Laylahp. 300, Ibn Majah 2/809. See also Al-Albani, Sahih Ibn Majah2/55.

Hisn al-Muslim 202

To Top

93. To Someone Who Says "May Allah Bless You"

وَفِيكَ بَارَكَاللَّهُ

Wafeekabaarakallaahu.

And may Allah bless you.

Reference: Ibn As-Sunni (Hadith no. 278)

Hisn al-Muslim 204

To Top

108. Excellence Of Spreading The Islamic Greeting

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: (لاَ تَدْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ حَتَّى تُؤْمِنُوا، وَلاَ تُؤْمِنُوا حَتَّى تَحَابُّوا، أَوَلاَ أَدُلُّكُم عَلَى شَيْءٍ إِذَا فَعَلْتُمُوهُ تَحَابَبْتُم، أَفْشُوا السَّلاَمَ بَيْنَكُمْ)

"Qala Rasulullahi salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam: laa tadkhulul jannata hattaa tu'minuu, wa laa tu'minuu hattaa tahabbuu, awwala adullukum 'alaa shay'in idhaa fa'altumuuhu tahababtum, afshush salama baynakum.

You shall not enter Paradise until you believe, and you have not believed until you love one another. Shall I tell you of something you can do to make you love one another? Spread the greetings of Salam (peace) amongst yourselves.

Reference: Muslim 1/74.

Hisn al-Muslim 224

To Top

ثَلاَثٌ مَنْ جَمَعَهُنَّ فَقَدْ جَمَعَ الْإِيمَانَ: الْإِنْصَافُ مِنْ نَفْسِكَ، وَبَذْلُ السَّلاَمِ لِلْعَالَمِ، وَالْإِنْفَاقُ مِنَ الإِقْتَارِ

Thalathun man jama'ahunn faqad jama'a al-Iman: al-insafu min nafsika, wa badhlu al-salam li al-'alam, wa al-infaq min al-iqtar.

There are Three things which whoever gathers all of them together, then he has gathered Iman (Faith): justice with oneself, greeting people with greetings of Salam (peace), and freeing oneself from stinginess.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, cf. Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 1/82 as a statement of the Companion 'Ammar (RA).

Hisn al-Muslim 225

To Top

وَعَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا: أنَّ رَجُلاً سَأَلَ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أيُّ الْإِسْلاَمِ خَيْرٌ قَالَ: (تُطْعِمُ الطَّعَامَ، وَتَقْرأُ السَّلاَمَ عَلَى مَنْ عَرَفْتَ وَمَنْ لَمْ تَعْرِفْ)

Wa 'an 'abdillahi ibni 'umara raḍiyallahu 'anhuma: anna rajulana sa'alan-nabiyasalla Allahu 'alaihi wa sallama ayyu al-'islami khayrun qala: (tutimut-taama, wa taqra'u assalama alaa man arrafta wa man lam ta`rif)

A man asked the Prophet (SAW), What is the best act of Islam? He said, To feed others and to give greetings of Salam (peace) to those whom you know and to those whom you do not know.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, Muslim 1/65.

Hisn al-Muslim 226

To Top

109. Returning A Greeting To A Disbeliever

إذَا سَلَّمَ عَلَيْكُمْ أَهْلُ الْكِتَابِ فَقُولُوا: وَعَلَيْكُمْ

Wa 'alaykum.

If one of the Christians and Jews (People of the Scripture) greets you saying As-Salaamu 'alaykum, then say (to him): And upon you.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, cf. Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 11/42, Muslim 4/1705.

Hisn al-Muslim 227

To Top

112. For One You Have Insulted

اللَّهُمَّ فأَيُّمَا مُؤْمِنٍ سَبَبْتُهُ فَاجْعَلْ ذَلِكَ لَهُ قُرْبةً إلِيْكَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ

Allaahumma fa'ayyumaa mu'minin sababtuhu faj'al thaalika lahu qurbatan 'ilayka yawmal-qiyaamati.

O Allah, whomever of the believers I have abused, give him the reward of a sacrificial slaughter for it on the Day of Resurrection.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, cf. Al-Asqalani, Fathul-Bari 11/171, Muslim 4/2007

Hisn al-Muslim 230

To Top

113. The Etiquette Of Praising A Fellow Muslim

قال صلى الله عليه وسلم: "إِذَا كَانَ أَحَدُكُم مَادِحاً صَاحِبَهُ لاَ مَحَالَةَ فَلْيَقُلْ: أَحْسِبُ فُلاَناً وَاللَّهُ حَسِيبُهُ، وَلاَ أُزَكِّي عَلَى اللَّهِ أَحَداً، أَحْسِبُهُ – إِنْ كَانَ يَعْلَمُ ذَاكَ – كَذَا وَكَذَا"

Qala salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "Itha kana ahadukum madihan sahibahu la mahalah fa-lyaql: ahsibu fulanan wallahu hasibuhu, wa la uzakki ala Allahi ahadan, ahsibu hu - in kana ya'lamu thalik - katha wa katha."

The Prophet (SAW) said: "If any of you praises his companion then let him say: "I deem so-and-so (person's name) to be... And Allah is his Assessor and I don't praise anyone, putting it forward, in front of Allah's commendation, however I assume him so and so ...if he knows that of him".

Reference: Muslim 4/2296.

Hisn al-Muslim 231

To Top

114. For The One That Have Been Praised

اللَّهُمَّ لاَ تُؤَاخِذْنِي بِمَا يَقُولُونَ، وَاغْفِرْلِي مَا لاَ يَعْلَمُونَ، وَاجْعَلْنِي خَيْرًا مِمَّا يَظُنُّونَ

Allaahumma laa tu'aakhithnee bimaa yaqooloona, waghfir lee maa laa ya'lamoona waj'alnee khayram-mimmaa yadhunnoon.

O Allah, do not call me to account for what they say and forgive me for what they have no knowledge of and make me better than they imagine.

Reference: Al-Bukhari, Al-'Adabul-Mufrad no. 761. See Al-Albani, Sahih Al-'Adabul-Mufrad (no. 585).

Hisn al-Muslim 232

To Top